Stop Feeling Guilty for Putting Yourself First

Hey y'all!

Long time, no chat, right? Well, today's topic covers the reason why I haven't posted in a hot minute. I didn't want to post something just because I felt like I had to post something. I didn't want to put up some half-assed piece that talked about the summer's hottest trends. I didn't even really want to post something inspiring either. I just didn't want to take the time to write anything.

And guess what? I don't feel an ounce guilty about it. I think a lot of people do things because they want to please other people or don't want to let others down. And while that's all fine and dandy, if there is something that you really don't want to do or don't feel inspired to do, then you do not have to do it.

Not to get all hippie on you, but our society has created a constant feeling like we must always be doing something to be successful in life. If we aren't posting on Instagram enough, then how is everyone supposed to know how great my day was? If we aren't complaining on Twitter, then how is everyone going to know how truly rude that waiter at dinner was?

I promise that you should not feel guilty if you decide that you don't want to post for 3 months. You should not feel guilty for unfollowing someone who does not bring you joy or makes you anxious when you see their post (PS Instagram now has a mute option instead of unfollowing if you like to avoid conflict). Social media is not a true reflection of who we are as people, and you should not feel bad if you don't want to partake in something so artificial.

But I'm also talking about real life too. It's okay to take a night off from going out just because you need alone time. Although I know that self-care is sort of a meme now, it's still such an important part of my everyday life. I like to set aside time to read for an hour without my phone or computer in sight. If someone wants to contact me, they'll have to wait.

I think a great step in the right direction is to create a morning routine, which if you're interested in hearing more about how to start your day off right, let me know in the comments! By letting yourself have time to just sit and simply be before you go into the hectic day to day grind, you are truly putting yourself first. Have nonnegotiables, things that you will do every single day for yourself.

In the end, the only person who truly knows us best is ourselves. So why are wouldn't we be more selfish? Why wouldn't we want to make sure we're the happiest and most comfortable with things? This is me telling you to stop feeling guilty for putting yourself first.


1 comment

  1. GIRL! Love this post. I couldn't agree more with everything you said. We are important. It is okay to treat ourselves like we are!!